BFF Shelley shamed me into a little post this week!! She also gave me the..."I have a full time job now and I have posted almost every day" speech. I needed to hear it. LOL!! Thanks Shell for caring enough to lecture me about it!!:) I've been a terrible blogger friend the past few weeks. Where have I been? Life. I have no other explanation for it.
Except for maybe this one....A few weeks ago a good friend of mine "insinuated" that I have too much time on my hands because of my blog habit and my facebook account. To be honest with you, I have really pondered that the last few weeks. I was completely offended. She probley doesn't even know that she offended me. She probley doesn't even realize that she said it!! She did NOT mean to offend me, but she did. And now, here I am a month later trying to work it all out in my mind.
I am a stay at home mom of FOUR children. I ABSOLUTELY DO HAVE A FULL TIME JOB. Granted, I TOTALLY give props to my girls that all do work outside of the home and manage a home and kids. I have also done that and it is tough. But for someone to give so little value to the work I do in this home actually infuriates me. It's all WORK!! And it is all HARD!! For someone to judge the amount of work I do at home by the time I spend on my blog......ARRRGGG! It just made me want to stop blogging all together.
I am out of bed on or before 7 am every morning. I feed four kids a healthy breakfast. I fix four heads of hair, two that involve hair bows and straightening irons. Lets don't forget about myself. The gym. My clean house. Dragging kids to and from school and football practice and gymnastics.
Frankly, my stomach feels sick right now because I feel like I am having to DEFEND what I do for a living!!!!! I am an adult!! I should have learned to let it roll right off at this age! But, it still hurts for someone to think so little before they open their mouth.
So here it is..putting it right out there. I am a stay at home mother and I am proud of the work I do in this home. I feel like I do a dang good job of raising this family and what the freak does my blog have to do with it?? Good grief.
Anyhow!! I love to blog. I have gotten alot of joy and therapy from it. And sometimes I spend more time than I actually have doing it! It's all about time management! So, I feel like I might just be over my little rant! I am NOT defending myself again. And I love my blog friends too much to desert them!!
Thanks for the little whine session! I KNEW I needed this blog for something!!:)
21 comments:
I totally feel your pain. I have worked and I have stayed at home...and both are hard...but for me..."staying at home" is the hardest job I will ever have. You don't get a break...you are always working......Keep up the good job you are doing...because you won't regret anything that you have done or haven't done...being a mom is the hardest job that I will ever have...but it is well worth it...watch for my upcoming blog, too...steph
I, personally, am pumped when I get to read your blog. I work in the same town that you live and your blog is how I keep up with your "kiddos" and makes me realize how much I miss them and love them. I just stayed at home for 7 weeks when Autumn was born and that was almost more work then working!! I am like Stephanie- either one is hard. You're a great Mom and wife and don't ever forget that!!!
Do you wanna eat sometime this week again? Maybe us and Belinda? Let me know if you have time!!
Luv ya girl!! Keep your head up, you are AWESOME at what YOU DO!!!
Yea your back. I meant to ask Shelley this morning if you were okay. I love to read your blog and see pictures of your beautiful children. Sometimes I consider giveing up blogging, but blogging helps me to reflect on what we have done, what we are doing, and what we will be doing. Remember, being a Mom is the most important job you can do.
Amen, and Amen!!
Love you friend!
You do a great job, sometimes i don't know how you do it. I have 2 boys don't think I could do 4 and lets not forget you have done as many as 5.High five to you missy.
P.S I have missed your blogging, it's how I keep up, we don't get to talk much even at the gym just breathing is hard some days LOL see you in the morning.
Please don't stop blogging! I love getting to keep up with you guys and see pictures of you and your family. Blog's are so fun. They are an online scrapbook that you can print out and have PRICELESS thoughts/stories etc.. preserved. You enjoy it!
Okay here is one of my favorite quotes from a movie "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission". (from the princess diaries)
Being a mom is WONDERFUL but a challange and I know you work SUPER hard at being a GODLY wife and mother (in that order) and it shows!
SO blog on my sister! with pride! YOU manage your time better then most people!
umm why do you think i have a job? bc staying at home is harder....much harder i think.....
don't ever feel like you don't do your job.....you are creating a warm and safe environment for little children that have the greatest luxury of life...(a stay at home mom)...how lucky are they!
YOU ROCK!
i am so glad you're back!!! i have missed you....i don't care what you do for a living...you cannot leave us without a blog for this long ever again!! i enjoy your blog so much and i think it is awesome that you take time out of your busy schedule to do it!!! don't people realize this is the only way some of us moms can keep up with each other and with each other's kids!!!??? don't they understand this is a way to 'scrapbook' that will never turn yellow or fade or get destroyed in a fire?? forget them...actually i want to say something else, but it would not be appropriate...bottom line, they need to mind their own!!!! :) you keep blogging, girl!!!
AMEN, sista!! Preach on!! You are awesome at what you do and I look up to you... so keep your chin up and most definately KEEP ON BLOGGIN! The flat iron can go, but the blog MUST stay! I love reading your posts. You make me feel "normal" :o)
I am so glad you are ok. I was starting to really worry!...Blogging to me is actually work. It is a journal that the kids will have forever. While it is fun and therapuetic it is also a great way to keep up with family and friends. Which is a big part of raising a family. There are so many stories and pictures of my childhood that I will never have. I know our children will love to hear all these stories and see all these pictures when they get big. There are web sites out there that will print your blog off and put it into a book for you. FabUlOuS!!! So please keep blogging. It makes us smile!...and God has said to encourage one another...so you better obey. LOL
If she hasn't ever stayed at home, she probably can't understand. I have always worked 2 days a week and now I just work one. My days at home are much harder than my days at work. It's fun and easy to go to a quiet office.
At home you have 2 jobs... taking care of the house, laundry, cooking, etc. and taking care of the kids and you're trying to do it all at the same time. At work, you're doing 1 job. Obviously, working is difficult too... I'm not downplaying the responsibilities of a working mom at all. I feel very overwhelmed at home most of the days trying to get everything done with a husband who is never home!
Amen sister! I have been the full time mommy and LOVED it but it was ALL work! I LOVED my quite time with my coffee and blogs... even when it was at 6am or midnight! I am glad I guilted you into blogging. Thats what BFF's are for, RIGHT??
SO glad you are back. I will chime in with the others and say to never feel like the work you are doing now is unimportant....it is THE most important thing you will ever do.
Dont listen to the haters!!
Glad that Cousin Shelley guilted you back.....we missed you!
for me this blog is about my family and using it as an online scrapbook not about the people that read it....
so you do whatever it is that makes YOU happy :)
you are a wonderful mama and you work hard at everything from cleaninng to cooking to blogging to raising your kiddos!!
loved you in orange tonight!!!
Can I get an AMEN from the crowd now?!?!?
I work hard here at my little "casa", and if I want to blog about my daily dramas, is that really so bad? If it offends anyone that I spend my spare time on my computer, then they REALLY do not have to visit my quaint little corner of the internet.
I, too, have missed you. Keep on keepin' on!!!
OMG - I can't believe that! I love, love your blog. You are the best friend, wife, MOMMA, that anyone could EVER ask for. Who cares what you do, at least you take care of your peeps in every aspect! I'm thankful for you, and your hubby, and your precious angels. Every member of your family has a special place in every member of my family's heart. You rock and your positive attitude truly lifts me up and I strive to be more like you each and every day! You are an amazing person Amy - don't ever doubt yourself, your strength, or your talents. Keep blogging, I love your blog!
Amy, I hope it's alright that I stopped by - saw this post and it's been bugging me since I saw it, so maybe it's my heartstrings being pulled to comment what little I know.
When we were out at the ranch together, Jeremy and I both saw how well mannered, thoughtful and fun your kids were. Without even having to talk about how you raised them or what y'all were trying to teach them, we knew. The way you talked to them and loved on them... we were allowed to see y'all in action and were incredibly blessed by it. You have everything in the world to be extremely proud of in them and in yourself. You answer to no one but God - and I'll tell you without a doubt in my mind that He is proud of you for what you're doing with those four sweet souls. I can only pray that Jeremy and I do as well with ours!
You keep your head high and let those silly words fall by the wayside. Your worth more than you know to your babies, your husband and everyone's life you touch!
There. I've said my piece. You're probably long over this post, but I've thought about it too much to let it pass.
You take care!
Wow! Some people! I'm sure your friend didn't mean it like that... but I understand your frustration! I can't even begin to imagine four kids and getting everything done. I can't handle my two! Love you girl!
First off. my hat is off to you. I could never be a stay at home mom..My family would drive me nuts. The three days I am at home with them, I am ready to go back to work!! My mom was like you. She shuffled my sister and I to all of our activities not to mention keeping us fed, the house cleaned and laundry done. And fixing hair in the morning!! I admire what you do!! You are awesome and I love reading your blogs. Please don't stay gone so long!!
Amy, I'm so sorry you have been feeling guilty about blogging! All I know is I am SO glad you're back ~ I literally was so sad every day when I clicked on your blog and there were no new posts or pictures. Since we don't get to see you very often anymore, blogging is a great way for friends to keep in touch! You are an incredible mom (always have been), and you and Jason have raised wonderful children. It is no one's business but yours if you choose to use a few moments out of an otherwise normally-crazy day to sit down, breathe, catch up on emails or whatever, and share a post about your family. I've missed you and am so glad you're back!
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